Miraculous Messaging

People, welcome to the recap. Call of the first week of February, and it’s a new month, we are having a new topic, and it is called miraculous messaging.

At first I called it Magnetic Messaging, but I’ve changed it, and I you’ll hear why in the recap how that all came about. let’s dive right in. Here’s what I want you to know, whether you’re selling your services as a business.

Well, you whether you got a product, or whether you’re selling your husband on what healthier food he should eat for dinner, or your wife or your partner or your dogs or your kids, we are always speaking our message into a listening right? And when you are clear on what your message is and why it’s your message, that message can’t it can definitely persuade people, but it can also create millions of miracles, little miracles, big miracles. And, yeah, I said it miracles.

We’re gonna go there all month. And since this is such deep, important work, we’re gonna do a quick drop in even on this recap. if you’re driving, I get it.

do this with your eyes open. Take a deep breath if you are in a place where you can hold your heart and feel the buzz. Close your eyes, drop in and feel that buzz.

That is the thing that keeps you alive. Take one deep breath, and as you exhale, let your body be a little heavier. It only takes one breath to start that process.

Now focus on the buzz wherever you feel that life energy, that buzz that’s working on your behalf at all times. Feel it in your chest and your tongue, in your hands and your feet, maybe in your head. And maybe, if you can’t feel it, acknowledge that it is there.

There’s something keeping you alive, working on your behalf. And if you can get curious for a moment and see if there’s any energy, there any emotion that’s asking to move or be acknowledged, I got a big, huge, heavy feeling in my gut. I got a tightness in my chest.

I’ve got a aching in my throat. Usually, the energy of emotion shows up first, Sensations on our body, tingling, aching, tightness, big energy moves through me, usually, if I don’t notice the tightness, but first, it’ll come out as tears. But if I’m aware, I can dial it back.

And I guess it’s not even sadness, it’s anger, it’s joy, it’s love. I’m a crier, and I’ll first, if I dial it back, I’ll see that it’s been in my throat, a tightness in my throat, and it becomes an aching in my ears, and I get that stinginess in my eyes, and then usually the tears come. But right about then I also notice that I try to stuff it down.

There’s another energy that comes that’s a plug a block in my throat. Do you guys know? Have you ever been about to feel an emotion or go down a path and then you feel this but never mind, let’s go on.

And that’s the moment I know I want to stop being aware of the energy. It’s usually when I try to talk or make a joke, or that’s usually when I yell if I’m going to be in the angry zone. That’s usually when I raise my voice.

But the more I practice, the more you practice, the better we get at allowing the plug to be there and allowing the emotion both at the same time. Because what I know from 10 million now tearful sessions in my life is that when I do allow everything to flow, energy moves all on its own. When I don’t believe the fear that it’s going to swallow me whole, emotion moves.

Everything is impermanent. take one more deep breath. Thank yourself for however you listened to this, however, you showed up in this little moment of acknowledging that you are an energetic, emotional being, and things are always in flux, even if you were distracted by driving or by life, or even if you’re only half listening right now, acknowledge yourself and get audacious.

And what by audacious is start thinking about celebrating yourself every moment is a walking miracle. We dropped in and felt the buzz, or at least acknowledged that there was something keeping us alive. Oh, hello, my sweet buzz.

Oh yes, love this look. We’re doing a quick recap. We dropped in.

And right now, we are celebrating the out of ourselves, for showing up, for making a decision to I want something, I’m going to unapologetically want it, and I’m going to make a decision to give it to myself. All right, back to miracles. Some people believe that only God creates miracles.

But I want to ask you, could it also be true that God enjoys creating those miracles with us and through us? Could it be that you are a walking, talking, constant miracle? We are constantly in co creation with energy, life, force, the universe, God, Light, whatever you call it.

Do we forget that a billion times a day? Yes, I forget that sometimes every 10 seconds, and we think we’re all alone, we got to figure it all out, or something terrible is going to happen, right? And sometimes terrible things do happen, even when we’ve been working hard to figure out how to prevent them.

But here’s the cool thing, terrible things have happened. Beautiful things have happened. And the constant through it all has been you and your miracle, your message.

I totally understand the bro marketing. I totally understand go figure out their pain points and get in there. And that’s maybe something that we have to explore.

But first we have to acknowledge that you are the message, your energy, your co creative energy, you have your own central theme. Sometimes that central theme comes out as an idea for dinner. Sometimes the central theme of you comes out as a piece of art or music.

Sometimes the central theme comes out as a business idea. how do we really understand as highly sensitive, creative, driven spirit preneurs? How do we really know what our message is and then use it to communicate, persuade for good.

I love looking up etymology, and if I’m not mistaken, per and suede means to advise through to completion. That is persuading, advising, through to completion, how do you persuade and inspire and help others? That’s what we’re doing all month.

Whether you have a business to market, a partner, to communicate kids, a community to inspire you are always being and speaking your message. And make no mistake, it is full of miracles. in the creativity call this week, we started with some self inquiry.

We looked inside for the answers, as we co create with who. And then throughout the week, we started to bring them into life and implement them in ways that brought it into our business, our families, our projects. right now, I want you to really quickly, since this is the recap call, think of one person or one business Avenue you’re going down one situation as I go through these questions, because it really will help you to see and all of this is me making a big assumption that everyone on this call, your central theme has something to do with being of service.

Has something to do with helping. Your message is helping. Marketing is helping, serving, leaving people.

What is serving? Leaving the people, leaving the world better than you found it. I think every single one of us here that is our central theme.

But here’s the cool thing, when we’re getting all tired and exhausted, it usually feels that is a one way communication. Our central theme is coming out of us, maybe even through us, but it is always two way, never one way. think of a person you want to help, and I want to run through some questions and let your let your brilliant, co creative subconscious bubble these up, this person or the situation or your future clients, what do they want to feel less of?

Real quick answers. They want to feel less pain. They want to feel less isolation.

They want to feel less let it come up, and then let it come up. How can you help them feel less of that? And I want you to be thinking in their terms, not what you think they need to feel less of.

What do they want to feel less of? And how can you help them with that? That’s part of your marketing, part of your messaging, those words, what do you what does your person What do your people want to feel more of and how can you help them feel more of that?

These are the things that we should be relentlessly, joyfully figuring out. How can I say it different? How can I come at this different?

Let me get a little creative here. How have I not said it yet? How can you help your people feel less of what they want, less of and more of what they want, more of.

Answer this one, what is the inner dialog that’s on repeat in their head that’s getting in their way, and how can you neutralize or redirect or speak to a replacement of that inner dialog in a way that they could be served better. What do they think their obstacles are, and how can you speak directly into their listening of how to remove some of those obstacles and how it can be easier than they think, how it can be faster than they think. How can you help them connect more deeply and honestly?

To what they want. That’s your message. That’s your selling.

What permission are your people waiting for? What affirmations are they hungry for? What parts of them are yearning to be seen and validated?

What part of them is yearning to be comforted and reassured. What parts of them want to be kicked in the butt with a little accountability? What are they thinking is difficult and hard that you can help them see it can be simpler and easier.

These are the questions as you think through very different way to approach sometimes the marketing of go out there and convince or get them to buy, get them to click. It’s all related, but as a sensitive you got to come at it with some holistic angles. marketing is serving.

Marketing is helping. Marketing is communication. Your message helps people.

All it is is leaving the world a better place than you found it. We also talked about how I had started this month calling it Magnetic Messaging, because I was playing it safe. I was scared to use the word miracle.

I didn’t know if y’all would be okay with that. I didn’t know if that would ruffle the feathers of some religious communities. And being courageous and going first to say, hey, this might ruffle some feathers.

Or hey, this is what by this. I’m gonna define what by miracles here, and trusting that if I am courageous and go first that shows you and helps you be , What am I too scared to say? My job is to show up as As Kendra as I can be, and your job is to show up as you as you fully can.

We’re going to share the stories and the scars today, what’s coming up for you, but I owed you all a big apology, because it’s easy to fall back on playing safe and playing small. we’re into miraculous messaging. Here’s what by miracle, a shift in perspective.

A miracle is a shift in your framework, a shift in how you see something I got a little sexy today on the call, told you some of how I shifted my perspective around sexy time in my life, that used to be really suppressed, and you could only have one person in your life as a sexual partner, and that was the person you married. And if you went over that, then you were a what that was? The early messaging I got one beautiful woman shifted that for me in an instant when she held up her five fingers and indicated that maybe five was okay, and she was a really wonderful human that I knew.

I thought, okay, whoa. Maybe that’s possible, but she still did, put in there over five, and you’re still she named this word slut. She said it and I went, Oh my God, that’s, I think, what my grandma meant by, what?

my grandma gave me the first, don’t have more than one. This beautiful boss of mine gave me the don’t go over five. And then later in life, another beautiful woman went, what?

Why would you even count what? That’s the most ridiculous. And it blew my mind open into , oh my gosh, there’s my power.

We’re not counting. We’re being who we are. it shifts in perspective.

That was my fun example today, but think of people who have said something one way, and it changed the trajectory of your life. That’s what I’m talking about with miracles, and that’s what you are offering when you put your messaging forward from SICK insignificant to smack you a truck. Miracles are finding the extraordinary inside of every day, a moment when your inner truth, your healed heart, your authentic voice, aligns with the universe of infinite possibilities.

And you go, it doesn’t have to be about great feats or defying nature. It’s about revealing the hidden magic within every single moment. And I know I’m preaching the choir.

I know you all get this, but maybe get a little reminder. Miracles are the radiant, magnetic result of you living in tune with your true nature, where your sincere message, no matter where it’s pointed towards, your business, your babies, it all becomes a catalyst for change and wonder. what do when I say messaging, marketing, persuading?

first and foremost, being of service. And second, being a mirror, your message is a mirror reflecting the desires and the wants of your listeners and their needs. You’re listening to them, and that’s what you’re reflecting.

That’s your message. It’s an invitation to come closer to you for. Feeling and inspiration and connection using their words because you’ve done the work to be with them.

I gave you all a fun little challenge this week. I don’t know if anybody who did it, but I said, See, try one conversation or several conversations where you do not use the word I you go into the conversation 100% about them. Bonus points, if you skip the small talk and go straight to what’s important to you, what help do you need?

What do you want less of what are your obstacles? Where do you need support? Tell me more.

Because words are more than words. Their sound and intention and emotion, and you instantly miraculously blend these three together all the time in seconds that build and you build bridges of emotion that are connecting people to you and to their their own hearts. And when you speak from true conviction, and you’ve done some of this inner work, miracles happen.

I think that’s a fairly good blend of everything we talked about, including the sexy stories. And I also gave you five things. did two different sets of five.

One, I give you five things you can focus on as you begin to think about your messaging, not as a way to convince people to buy your thing or whatever or buy into your idea, but as you start to think of it as more of a little miraculous event, keep your focus on them. Is Number one, I talked about that. Number two is see how much you can be phrasing things in the positive, in the affirmative for me, that means I gotta take all the cussing out.

I’ll clean that up. Stop the gossiping complaining. I think I saw a head whip, someone was , what you’re gonna try that?

Good luck. Yes, I am. No complaining.

I was also noticing in my conversations, as we do this, how much more fun it is to say, Hey, how you doing? Oh, I’m good. Okay.

Well, how are you? How’s your family? Good?

Okay. How’s the job? Good.

How’s the weather? Oh, bad. Let me tell you the story and how when we’re bad, we tend to lean in and have something to talk about.

a noticing. And how do I want to be around that? And certainly I’m not saying to be toxic positivity or gas lighty or spiritual bypassing with everything is rainbows and daisies, but to start to open up this world to , what else is possible when I put this different lens on, number three was skip the small talk and go straight to the purpose number four was use people’s names.

I gave you a Dale. Carnegie quote that a person’s name is to him or her, the sweetest and most important sound in any language. Right?

Adana, right. Shima, right. Kat, right.

Nancy, right. Michael, there. It’s right in there.

You put it right in there. Go to the coffee shop. And I think we, one person coached this week and was , but it makes me feel already salesy to use someone’s name, I’m already trying to get them to do something.

I challenged her to sing it, to say it playfully at the coffee shop, Penelope, I got to tell you something. I’m trying to say people’s names more. I’m gonna use your name, Penelope, one more time after this, and then I will have felt some of the emotions come up in me.

Thanks much, Penelope. Who knows what Penelope is gonna think, but you’re working on it. You’re moving through something, you’re feeling.

And number five was listening to your people to genuinely understand them, not to respond to them in a very smart way, in a very wise way. what do you mean by that? What would you want if there was what was your desire out of that?

And then trusting yourself to know if you really can help someone based on understanding what they really need and want. if you take any way thing away, I want you to also take away that miraculous messaging happens over time. You don’t get it right one time and then boom, your marketing works.

It is a trust that is building based on you being who you are. And I also gave you the five levels of change this week that we are always working on in all the different areas. when we’re bummed that things aren’t happening as fast as we want them to, but we keep showing up and learning and becoming the next version of ourself.

Here are the five things that I want you to keep turning in the direction of data, not drama. Data is the antidote to drama. I do not mean drama as your emotions.

Emotions are emotions. You feel them, you process them, you let them move through you. I’m talking about the additional drama that when you keep repeating a story keeps you stuck in an emotion that’s a junk food emotion.

overwhelm and confusion and the ones that never get moved through data over drama. Data is the antidote to drama. part of the data I want you to be looking at is in five areas, if you’re trying to change anything, even if it’s your marketing, even if it’s your messaging that we’re talking about this month, but anything your health and wellness routines, your the way you show up to a relationship.

Know that you are making change first on the subconscious level, we gotta work there. We gotta point our self in the direction of and sometimes that takes a little help from some therapy or a little help from some coaching, and all are welcome here. We want to do all of the things that support us.

Another level is the somatic level, the body level, right? Your body has to be caught up on its nervous system, on its emotional well being, on the sensations that it’s willing and regularly dealing with subconscious and somatic. We all love to make change at the behavioral and strategic level, tell me what to do, and I’ll start doing it differently.

We got to bring the subconscious. We got to bring this, the bodies along with it. Emotional is the fourth layer that we are going to be talking about this month, and the mindset.

You’ll see a lot of programs out there saying, I’ll help you with mindset, or I’ll help you with knowing exactly the 12 step framework, behaviorally, what to change, or your strategy. Some, some are very much more into the somatic practices. But I think it helps you to know that there you’re always working on all these things at at least five different levels, you could go a little easier on yourself, right?

And the more you work with these in a conscious way, the better you’re going to become at being your message, creating the miracles with your message, because you’ll be able to consider how other people are in these five levels of change at all time. I do want you to I’ll take one quick moment and promise me and Promise yourself that you’ll get support, extra support. You’ll reach out.

You have people that there’s a difference between going and doing some of this inner work and remembering some of the reasons why we even think the way we do from our subconscious, without re traumatizing. You can heal trauma without re traumatizing. That was one of those miraculous mindset shifts that a coach gave me 20 years ago because she saw that when I was trying to work through things and feel things and heal things, I was staying in them and re circle, circulating them, you somehow heard two out of the five levels of change.

Let me do it again. Excellent. Number I’ll be very clear, and I won’t talk in between them.

Number one, subconscious level. Number two, somatic, or body embodied level. Number three, behavioral and strategic.

Number four, emotional and number five, mindset, good, excellent. Okay, I think that’s it, if you are scared of putting your message out there. If you’ve been worried about how to how to put a message across to someone, or how people will think of you, that’s okay and normal.

We do sometimes present differently, dress differently, brand ourselves differently, whether we’re going to a pool party or a wedding, right? But also no the same time of being scared at the same time of learning this, you are also ready to put your message out there, because you are already putting a message out there, even if you’re not aware of what that message is. in the implementation of this week, I asked you all to be clear, , do I need to go through life a little bit right now seeing what I’m already putting out there as my message?

Because do it. change your message. start doing being the thing doesn’t always work for highly sensitive, highly driven, creative, spiritually minded folks.

You folks, I do want you to get out there and find out what your message is and start thinking about you want. You want, what your message as you evolve it as you listen for people of what they need and what they want, but ask the people even what they think you stand for. Ask yourself what it is you want to stand for, we’re going to be working a lot with narratives and choosing intentionally the narratives that serve you, the messages that you’re telling yourself.

They matter. They matter probably more than anything. Some of them are on repeat, right?

with that, we’ll pause the recap of the. Week, and I would to talk to you. Let’s coach you.