Life & Trust

Good evening and welcome to the recap. Call February, what 17th, 18th, 19th, 20, whatever we’re in 2025, welcome and sit back, relax, let this stuff wash over you, as the conversation that should be happening in every coffee shop should be happening in every bar.

Should be happening in our political landscapes. Should be happening in our schools. But since it’s not, we do it here.

Now you can take journals, if you are the journaling, , put it into paper and make it into your own and see how it comes out. Or you can let it come in while you’re making Thera flu, whatever it is that’s happening with you. Okay, here we go.

This week, we’re talking about life quadrants, because whether you’re creating a business, you love a partnership, you love a healthy body that you love the money story that you’re falling in love with, or you’re going with whole life, there are some truths that are consistent and reliable, and when you remember them, you can talk to yourself with words and languaging and tone and intention, also known as messaging that generates miracles. And you can also speak into the listening of your kids, your community, your partner, whoever your audience is. You can speak with words and language and tone and intention, aka also known as messaging that generates miracles.

remember, we are here in the club. Are defining miracles as shifts in perspective. when we’re talking about talking to other people and our own stuff in our head, we’re talking about making miracles by shifting our perspective.

It’s been going in one direction and leading us towards certain results. We can change that at any time. But of course, perspectives, even if we shift them, that can go in a good and bad way, they can work for our highest good, or we can shift our perspectives, and it’s still not work out.

I want to help you keep getting towards results you want, not the ones that deflate you, not the perspectives that bring you down. I’m going to give you a very cool, tangible, visible, simple tool, the life quadrants, this week, that helps you become a master at creating the whole picture of we we’re really working with the upper right quadrant, if you’ve been here, and the lower left. All the quadrants count, but our brains tend to go back between stop.

Everything’s wrong. I’m tired. This is not working, and I can do it.

I have hope. . We’re really looking at those this week, because as you become a master at taking the next step, speaking positively to yourself, uplifting yourself, elevating yourself, nurturing yourself and doing shifts in your perspectives in that direction.

Because our human brain, it doesn’t need help in the worst case scenario, training direction, right? Our human brains, our biology, is already good at keeping a lookout for danger and what’s going to harm us, it will always be there. Now we need to listen to it sometimes we know what it’s saying.

But the way you create elevating shifts in perspective is to keep speaking into both with yourself and your world the upper right, even when we’re talking into social media, sometimes we can be talking to people in the lower left, convincing them to us, convincing them to buy from us, convincing because we don’t have Our source of safety inside of ourselves yet. I wanted to give you this example of thinking of someone right now that you love very much and you want to help them. You helping them.

They want your help, even someone you’ve loved for a long time, or maybe you spend a lot of time with them. It’s very easy, especially when you spend a lot of time with someone or someone really well, it can become easy to speak to their lower left selves, and they speak to your lower left self, because we’re trying to help each other improve in some way, right? We think we’re helping by being , don’t do it this way.

Stop thinking this way, and we’re speaking down. Usually it’s around. I can help you eat better.

I can help you be more on time. I can help you be more me, or relax more, or be better with money, or make decisions better. And we speak to each other into the parts that we think need help, and that even validates us we think we’re being helpful, and when it doesn’t work out and people don’t take our advice, then we’re exhausted and we’re all martyred, I try hard, because we’re also talking to ourselves in the lower left, because it somehow seems more practical or helpful if we’re speaking negatively, but speaking up.

Speaking love, speaking elevation. That’s where the life quadrants can help us. if we want to draw them tonight, we will, but I want you to consider that here are some things, some base level things, that can help you move from lower left to upper right without going to rainbows and daisies and toxic positivity and spiritual bypassing.

Blah, blah, blah. I want you to consider, as you going through this weekend, even your life, settling into these truths that are undeniable. Number one truth, number one was you have a body.

You have a body that can be a lower left thing, or it can be an upper right thing. And you better believe, if you’re talking lower left about your body or to your body. No, no, bueno.

And I know sometimes our bodies get sick. They stay sick longer than we want them to, but they are responding in large part to the way we’re talking to ourselves, the food we’re putting in our mouth, the choices we’re making with them. Lesson number two, lessons are always available to you to learn always.

Number three mistakes, quote, unquote, mistakes lead directly to learning the lesson every single time, if you want it to, you make the mistake, you do the thing wrong, whatever. And then you can say what went well with that and what do I want to do differently? But instead, we tend to speak to the lower left quadrant.

We go, Oh, my God, I suck. Truth. Number four.

Lessons are always repeated until they are learned. you don’t have to worry if you don’t get the lesson the first time you’ll come back around, you’ll be doing it again. Choose number five, learning lessons never ends.

There is never a you that gets the perfect job, the perfect spouse, the perfect situation, and then you’re done. don’t make the mistake of thinking that once you’re there, you won’t have problems. You will.

Is good when you’re speaking in the upper right part of yourself. You want these opportunities? Truth, number five, learning.

Oh, I think I told you that number six out there, wherever there is right now to you, is no better than here. That’s a hard one, because we keep thinking we have to get somewhere. Move down.

That’s what the hamster wheel is, that there’s always a carrot out there. There is no better than here. They are, both roughly 5050, you’re gonna have problems and great things.

Number seven, what you see, what you see, is a mirror of you and what you’re thinking. It’s always a mirror. if you are thinking and speaking and believing in the lower left, you will start to see that in the world period.

And yeah, when you’re first making the jump to the upper right quadrants, it’s gonna be a little , Wait, I don’t see it yet. It’s gonna take a minute. that’s what we have to master.

Truth. Number seven, I’m sorry. Number eight, what you make of your life is up to only you, you, and only you are telling the story.

because someone else tells a story to you, I get it. It’s very easy to believe what they’re saying. Or if you have doubts in yourself.

It’s very easy to go, oh no, they’re right and be brought straight down to that lower left and then stay there for days, weeks, months, years. What you make of your life is up to you. Remind me to tell you the million dollar story about that in a little bit Truth Number nine, life is always exactly what you think it is.

Truth Number 10, your answers are in you always, and we’re gonna keep moving into intuition. And as you speak more and talk more and decide more from your intuition, and you encourage your people to trust their intuition, and you let the chips fall where they may, life changes, instead of this tight grip of control, of domestication and perfection and people pleasing and everybody trying to look good and be good and do good and be safe. Truth 11, you’re going to forget everything.

I said. You will forget the truth often and Truth Number 12, you can remember the truth anytime you want, plan on forgetting it. Plan on falling asleep in the next two hours.

There’s a reason. I decided to make a program that was daily, as daily as possible as I can do right now, because the way I started to make these changes, I come from very lower left quadrant, thinking the Midwest, Oh, honey, Everything’s bad, the weather, the price of gas, except for this fried chicken. Eat this fried chicken.

That’ll make everything better, the things I believed about myself, I was I’m not athletic, I have made to be a big bone. And I’m never going to be able to do anything with my body, all kinds of stuff. Number 10 was I love that.

, number 10, your answers are always in you. when you’re ready to buy that program, that’s , I’m gonna show you exactly how that’s fine. There are some programs out there that have some great information, but, and the reason it’s compelling you is because you’ve probably thought, I don’t know how to figure it out, or, oh shit, I need what they’re selling.

But then you’re gonna get it and you’re gonna realize, wait a second, this is what they’re selling. I know half of this already. Then you may or may not finish that program right?

Am I right? Or am i right? we can read those again, or we can go over those again a little bit later.

Then we moved once. We established , okay, there are some truths we can count on that aren’t spiritual bypassing. They are to the truth.

Then I asked you, what is your system for generating trust. We’ve got these quadrants where we know we’re going to flip flop between talking down and talking up and elevating up. how do you generate whether it’s with someone else or yourself, in your life, trust that you’re going to keep moving up, that you’re going to keep showing up for yourself in a way, what’s your system for generating trust?

And I know it’s weird to think of trust as a system, but if you think about it, there’s systems and patterns everywhere in nature, and you’ve already got what it might not even be working for you or optimal for you, but knowing your system what is good for you, for me, it involves two things for sure, consistency and time. If I’m going to truly trust someone I do love, meeting someone new and giving them , the benefit of the doubt, I trust you. You haven’t done anything to , break my trust.

I get that. But I used to think that that was, , owed to someone. I trust you.

I trust everybody. I love everybody. I’m really people pleasing and wanting to feel good.

now for me to step into an upper right quadrant of how I treat myself over time consistently, is to tell people the way we build trust is to I want you to show up for in the consistent way. You don’t have to show up for me. Show up consistently over time.

That’s how we build trust. Do how many dating partners? I wish I would have said, here’s how it’s gonna work with me.

Instead, I was , Okay, let’s try. You might prefer to get to know someone and and see how they show up over time, and then if they’re consistent with how they show up, then you trust them a little bit more and my I remember people being , what? Don’t, don’t you trust me?

And I feel bad, , No, I don’t trust you. But I couldn’t say that, I throw myself under the bus. Or, how many times have you said, I’m gonna do this to yourself, and you don’t do it.

you don’t trust yourself right now, you can change that refer back to the truths that we’ve talked about. once what’s important to you for building trust, you can ask yourself, do you have trust built between you and you do you show up consistently and keep your word to yourself over time? I am on a roll.

Sorry to see you go no problem. Okay. Would you to hear more about generating systems that generate trust, whether it’s in yourself or in others?

Here’s what we talked about. Number one, to start in the upper right, or even move yourself towards and start to trust yourself. I say, check out the difference between judgment and appreciation.

Both are judgment, but if you what you appreciate, if you can look at your loved ones, if you can look at yourself and start with what you appreciate, what you appreciate, appreciates. And you can notice I do it all the time with my sweet husband. I want to help him much that it is easy for me to almost be saying something nice to him.

And I’ll say, I noticed you didn’t do this. What? What came out of my mouth.

I’m thinking a nice thought, but I show up in a way that I go, nope, come back around. Let’s try that again. Judgment is going to always be there.

to keep working on appreciation, first number two, another thing to remember when you’re generating trust with yourself, this means appreciating yourself too. My friends do not buy into your limitations or someone else’s, they’re going to tell you all the things that are wrong. They’re going to tell you all the things they can’t do, all the things that are hard.

You can be there for them and go , I hear you. Oh, my God. Okay, that sounds hard.

Yes, I’ve been there. Oh, I can relate you. But to think, Oh, this is horrible, and you can’t fix it, and you’re stuck forever.

Let me help you that’s buying into their limitations, one of the best things you can do for yourself and others is believe in them, believe in their upper right self, consistently over time. Another thing that can help you generate trust part of your system is to offer to add value when you’re hurting. And you can say to yourself, what do you need?

If the answer is, I need you to get naked and get in your bed and hug a teddy bear, and you can show up in that way and do that for yourself. That’s a hell yes, that’s a showing up way that you can start to trust yourself. offer to add value to yourself or to the person you’re speaking to, or to your audience.

How can you help them? It is very nice once you start thinking about these things in a way that is not , oh, I don’t have any way to help people. But if you can start saying, , I have a process I go through much I’m doing right now.

Here are some things I’ve thought of, can I add this value to your life? It’s simple. Maybe someone else is , I don’t agree with that.

You go, Okay, what do you what do you hear from that that’s still generating value in their life, but to help them see a different payoff, a different time frame, something that’s possible for them that they don’t believe because you’re believing in them, maybe it’s not going to take as long as they think it’s going to take, or yourself believing in them. And the last one I’ll give you is this shift from living outside in to living inside out to keep reminding yourself, even when it doesn’t feel right that your source of safety is inside of you. First, we’ve been doing it a different way a long time with people pleasing and getting validation and approval and making the money from the outside and the A pluses from the outside, this is going to be a little bit weird ride at first.

But never buy into your own limitations. Believe in yourself, believe in your people offer value to yourself and live inside out, because then we went into four levels of influencing yourself and others as we talk about miraculous perspective shifts and messaging. The four levels that we’re always working on is there’s between you and you.

Do you trust you that has to come first. You cannot go out there the way you’re wanting to as a highly sensitive, creative, and start living the life of your dreams if you don’t have you. the first level is between you and you.

Then if you’re going to be working with people, you got to do it one to one. You have to be able to talk with people, tell them where you are, be honest, because you have yourself. Then you can start taking it one to many.

And that’s when moving to this legendary people start to know and trust you, because you are consistent. Your messaging is consistent because you started with you and you worked from the small to the next or the next. We want to jump.

Trust me. I know I have this vision of 1000 people here right now, but you’re not judging me for not 1000 people being here right now, , I’m growing something, and I’m going as slow and deliberately as I want to and as I need to. Everything is based on how you influence yourself, how you trust yourself, and you are rewarded in public for what you practice in private, quick caveat or a quick little special note, when people are mean to you and they’re going to be mean to you a lot, sometimes the people that are most important to you, it’s going to happen, especially if they’re not getting their booties in some place the club every day, but I want you to remember consistently it means that they have past references where their trust has been broken.

they are pretend protective layers of protected mode when someone is mean to you, you don’t have to buy into that. You don’t have to go join them in the lower left. You have to see right now they’re working through something where, in the past, they were hurt.

Their trust has been broken, and they’re trying to do fast repair by by spitting it outwards. It’s not the way we repair. And the last thing I’ll leave you with in this recap is there are three things that are absolutely required for you to establish trust.

And when those three things are there, we all know it, we feel it. And when one of them is missing, we know it, we feel it. you ready for those three things, and then we’ll hang out together.

Number one, you have to trust in yourself. I’ve said that 7000 times in this one call, and I will say it to myself over and over. Again, because it’s easy to step right away from that.

But when you’re establishing trust between you or anybody else, you gotta have you first, the second one is they have to believe in themselves. if you, if you, they don’t do that yet, you gotta help them get there. You have to help them see that they do have access to that someone’s buying something from you, they have to believe in themselves, and they have to believe in you.

Both of those things have to be there. The third thing is, the thing you’re selling, they have to believe and trust in the process you’re selling, the product you’re selling, this is going to make them happier in some way, this is going to make them more comfortable in some way, some part of their life easier. you have to be able to paint the payoff picture for them.

Here’s what you can picture if you have this thing, or if you work with me, and when you’re selling them the payoff and helping them trust in themselves and you and the payoff. Here are the three things with payoff that really help when you’re being when you’re messaging yourself and others, it has to be easier than they’re thinking it is. You can say, with my help, I’m going to make it easy.

I’m going to do it with you, or I’m going to show you some stuff that I’ve been through. To make your process easier, they have to believe that it’s not going to take them that much time, or as much time as they think. Because if they’re in their head and they’re on the lower left, I promise you, the lower left is always it’s hard, it’s going to take too long, and it’s going to cost me too much.

To help them see the effort can be easier. It’s doable. You can do it.

It might be hard, but you can do it. It might not take as long as you think it’s going to take. You can help them believe in completion and it’s not going to cost you as much as you think it’s going to cost you, or vice versa.

If you don’t buy this, do this, make this shift, it’s going to cost you even more. They have to believe in the value. I know it’s multi layered, multi tiered, but all of this starts helping you generate.

And when I say living inside out, here’s what , specifically, that you spend time on the daily checking in with yourself what your desires are, whether it’s your internal desires or between you and your divine creator, however you check in with yourself, talk to it, talk to your desire. Listen to it, respond to it, journal it out, spend time. You’ll develop your own ways.

Then to make decisions from your desire, from that quiet place, sometimes you gotta prioritize them. There’s lots of competing ones, and then to take aligned action in the direction of your desire. You guys, I don’t think there’s anything else more important for a human being to do a little bit of action in the direction they decide they want to every day, not every moment, little something, and then manage our own self worth and our self esteem and our trust of ourselves, of if it’s not happening as fast as we want it to, if it’s harder than we want it to, to be , okay, that’s okay.

I still keep moving. All I got to do is keep moving in the direction. And it is inevitable I will get there that desiring something, deciding on it, and moving towards it, is innate to you.

It was taken from you. It was domesticated out of you. It was scolded out of you.

It was modeled differently. You have this innately. Every kid I’ve ever met before they get into the domestication rat race.

If they want something, they go for it. If they don’t get it, they freak out. That’s innate to us, you don’t have to worry about you having a desire.

Now, we don’t always get what we want, which is a whole nother level, but if you have you, if you have your own back, if you trust you, then you’ll always be able to make the next best step. You will always listen to your desires and your intuition and be able to move forward no matter what. I will pause there, and then we will go into your lives and Coach.