Infinite Capacity

Hello, good afternoon, good evening, good morning. Whenever you are listening to this.

This is the recap call for the creative, the creators, whatever we’re calling it, the creators club, that was a place that has teaching, coaching, mentorship, guidance, as well as community, and we’re growing it intentionally by highly sensitive, driven, high over functioning creatives who want to make money in their business, usually in the arts, with their creativity, whether that’s music or artistic endeavors or putting a creative business together. It is made by us, for us. we are well underway, and this week, what we were talking about was not capacity, , what’s your capacity for this and that, but how to access more capacity, how to challenge yourself to grow your capacity.

How to expand your capacity when expansion is necessary, and how to expand your capacity for less when the capacity needs to go in the direction of doing less, saying no, hunkering down, going inward and feeling capacity in every directions. And I started the whole week with a quote by MLK Jr, the most authentic thing about us is our capacity to create, to overcome, to endure, to transform, to love and to be greater than our suffering. Some of you have taken me up out there in the world on our private one on one, get your organized offer for coaching.

And that is very exciting for us to be able to be in a group program and then also offer one on one time. I would love to hear from you after this how those organization sessions are going. Because whether it’s your business or your wild, creative brain help with healthy meal planning or something deep in personalized in your mind, to have personalized help and not talk about it, but to get it on paper and have it be tangible and physical.

And we were using this word called spreadsheets this week, which is can be a dirty word in our world, but also to be able to be held on the emotional and this feels weird and new and different, and I’m freaking out level at the same time as you keep moving things forward, that is the gift that I believe everyone needs in this world. We deserve it. You deserve it.

Let’s give it to each other. We have two new coaches on the scene, if you haven’t met them yet, Coach Melissa and coach Megan are here now to help you get more traction and attention on the things that matter to you. for many of us, highly sensitive, high functioning, over functioning, I should say creatives, getting clear, staying clear, getting organized, staying organized can be the bane of our existence.

we’ve been building safety and expanding all of our depths of emotion and confidence and skills for the last six months, which it makes us be ready to go into expanding, accessing, tapping into more capacity. And we had a big week. There were tears every single day of the week, including mine, and that’s exactly when the capacity conversation is the most potent.

if you are hearing me say capacity, and you’re hearing do more work, more stress, more sleep, less make more hours in the day to grow your capacity, let me clarify what by increasing capacity, or tapping into more capacity or accessing it. Want you to think of a time when you couldn’t do something, whether that was tie your shoe, have a relationship, pay a bill, drive a car. You didn’t think you could do it.

It was scary, and now in your life, it’s a no brainer. You have even mastery over it. You have expanded your capacity to do that.

And maybe it’s having children and thinking you had no idea how to handle something, and now you got three or four of them, and you handle them all champs. Or maybe it’s the amount of money that used to flow through your life when you were 10 or 12 or 16, and you couldn’t imagine having more, double, triple, quadruple, that amounts, and now you got that. When I met my husband, I did not know this weird feeling about six or eight months into it, I kept moving my body, very weird, stretching, and I didn’t know what was going on until I realized it was a capacity itch issue.

And I my body was not used to the capacity to the feeling happy or relaxed or joyful, and it was literally I thought something was going wrong in my. Joints. But once I had the capacity conversation with myself, even capacity for joy, I needed to tap into how to access that.

building a new bestie, or, sorry, new bestie, building a new business while running the old one. I don’t know if some of you are bringing new things online. I know I have been bringing something new online and having a foot in both worlds and learning how to grow my capacity and make sure that I still had downtime and relaxation time and nutrition time.

I had to tell an entirely different story, and I have to, I want to be careful here, because this is not about spiritually bypassing or gaslighting or positive, toxic, toxic, whatever, toxic positivity in yourself by being , Oh, well, then I’ll say I’m fine, and I’ll say I have more capacity. It’s not that simple, and I’m not asking you to do that, but it is that simple, and I am asking you to do that. It’s a very nuanced that’s the sweetest story ever, building a new bestie using my don’t see what else you’re saying.

Okay, when you can’t change, I can’t do this, or I don’t know how to do this, directly into, oh, I can. I tapped into infinite capacity. I want you to try a little bridge thought, a little baby step ladder of when you’re thinking, I can’t, or this is bad, considering that all art, all technology, all science and medicine, all this innovation around us is ever expanding.

That’s our collective infinite capacity to expand. And when you’re thinking, I can’t I want you to tap into that. There is infinite capacity around you that might be available to you.

And think this thought I am right now with every cell of my being, the potential of more of that capacity of reaching or deepening my capacity to think of yourself as the potential of that capacity, of having that capacity, can be a initial game changing thought. as we have been looking through capacity, at first, we started with a general concept of capacity. Then we took it to a specific lens of making offers, sales, marketing, being of service, offering to help people, telling people what you’re all about, possibly telling people it’s time to pay you to get more of you.

Sales, Marketing, being of service, that’s what we call it in business. But if you don’t have a business, and if you’re raising a family, or you’re you’re bringing projects into this world that are basically true from your passion. Then if you’re stewarding any idea into existence, you might resonate with sales and marketing by its different names, which is helping others self fix your genuine self expression and being of service.

But either way, whether you have a business or not, you probably have thoughts and feelings a relationship to this word sales and marketing, selling being sold to we personalized it inside the club. We definitely got detailed about what that meant to each other in terms of selling and marketing, whether that leaves a bad taste in our mouth, but a lot of us have had bad sales experiences, whether it was us getting rejected or feeling we were getting pushed into something. I would love to hear from you now or in the future, what your feelings are, what your relationship is to making offers or taking other people’s offers, whether it’s services or products or Starbucks or chocolate, whatever comes up for you.

Okay, that’s one thing. I also want you to consider taking me up on this offer, if I can sell you on this that often in our culture, in our surroundings, we are hearing people talk about overwhelm and burnout and exhaustion, and that’s a very real thing. If you are feeling overwhelmed and burnt out and exhausted, there are very real, tangible things you can do for yourself to rest, recover, rejuvenate, repair.

That’s when it’s real and fixable. What I want to talk about right now is when that’s not what’s happening when exhaustion and burnout are a sneaky little lie or a misdirect by part of you that’s scared of moving forward or changing. In those cases, overwhelm, burnout, exhaustion, are starting in the mind and manifesting in the body.

And I’m not saying it is all in your head, I said, there’s the time when it’s really real, but when that’s an excuse, when that’s holding you back, when that’s keeping you safe, when you’re not unsafe. You. That’s when it’s good news for us to realize it starts in our brain.

It starts in our head. It’s a belief, and we can change that, because when it comes to increasing your capacity, and increasing your capability to either hold something, consume something, bring something in, or to do something, produce something and give something out, when it comes to increasing your capacity to do new things or do the old things even better, with faster and more ease. You do not have to strain more.

You don’t have to strain your body more. You don’t have to lean on your relationships more. You don’t even have to find more hours in the day.

You can start in your mind. Sometimes this is a popular, unpopular one. I make myself answer if something’s not going my way, how is this perfect?

How is this going to serve me? How am I going to use this? How can I do this?

How can I see this that it’s wonderful for me? Now that’s I said, Love hate, because it’s not about gaslighting yourself or brushing over some real things that you need to feel and deal with. I want you to consider that increasing your capacity has four components.

And when you get clear on them and you practice them, and you coach on them, and you coach yourself on them, you will watch your capacity expand the four components are looking at what you are willing to believe about capacity. Your capacity, the infinite universe of capacity. What are you willing to believe second component, what are you willing to do about capacity?

Are you willing to change your beliefs? Are you willing to change your your habits or your schedule, to get clear , yes, I would to shift my capacity, and I am willing to change some things, is Component number two. Number one, what are you willing to believe about capacity?

And number two, what are you willing to do about it? The third component is knowing why. In the case of increasing your capacity to say yes or to make offers or to change and pivot a career or to say something hard or to say no, why do you want to change your capacity to do this or increase it or tap into more?

Why? Why is it important to you knowing that getting to the emotion that you will feel once you have done the thing and increased your capacity to include that as who you are, knowing why, what is your actual fuel? And the more you tap into the emotion, it’s pouring gasoline on that fire.

Things go fast when you feel them. Little secret on the side that we didn’t talk about this week in the club, but we will be in future weeks when you are in buying mode and you want to click that thing and buy that thing. There’s a natural bridge between your logical mind and your emotional mind.

You are naturally going, I feel something I want that I’m inspired, and I know how I’m going to get it. I’m going to buy that. And here’s the things I’m going to get, and here’s what I’m going to do.

That’s a kind that’s a connection you or you’re making, but when you are selling something, and what it took to make it, and the value of it, and now you’ve got to go out there and with a new skill set, show the people and tell the people about it, that bridge isn’t as natural to the emotional connection of you or of your people. It is not the same thing to say I am excited to tell you about my thing and my idea, or even this chocolate is my favorite, and I love it much that might be your emotion, but to tap into your people’s emotions, that’s where the selling and the offering and the persuading shifts. That’s one of the skills we have to learn, especially as highly sensitives that can feel into other people’s we’re very empathic, usually.

why do you want to create increase your capacity knowing that is huge, tapping into emotion, and the fourth component is who you are willing to include in your process. Who are you going to include in your process of expansion and making very good decisions about having people I used to have, well, I still have them. He’s still my friend, but he’s my friend, and I call him my no friend.

Every idea I have, he says, No, that’s not a good idea. And he tells me why it’s wrong. I used to love to involve him in my process, because I would get to hear what came out of my mouth as he was saying no.

I would get to hear my arguments. I’d get to hear my tweaks and twists of how I could make it better and see what I would say to make him say yes or to see what he might need to say yes. And now I realize that in my creation phase, I don’t necessarily need the no’s right away.

when I’m involving the people in my capacity expansion for something, I first go with the yeses. I fortify that because I really do have decided I want to make the change. I want to grow.

My capacity, then I might involve the nose to further expand my capacity, but it’s very intentional. I also want to say this might be true for you based on the way I was raised, my family of origin, my tribe of origin, my culture, the media around me at the time, the messages I was receiving everywhere I should technically, there’s no reason I should be a normal, healthy body weight. I should be several 100 pounds over what my frame desires.

That is something that I was taught. I was even taught that’s the way it was going to be for me. I shouldn’t be able to have a healthy relationship with food or nutrition.

I shouldn’t be able to have long term friendships or my relationship that was not modeled or taught or even advocated for. For me, I should definitely not be able to manage money well, and yet I can, and I bet you can do some things that you weren’t exactly taught the way that would have been ideal. And I keep getting better and better, and I bet you do too, if you really look at it with neutral eyes, sometimes our eyes look at our life as what’s going wrong, because a part of our brain is supposed to be doing that, but in terms of what’s happening and what you’re capable of doing and what your capacity is, you have expanded in many ways that maybe were impossible based on how you were raised, or what trauma and drama and past things you had to go through.

Why? What are some of the things that technically you weren’t taught or modeled or trained or learned on but maybe you’ve enjoyed becoming them and mastering them. As you start to think about becoming more comfortable with this idea of expanding and accessing your capacity for greater and greater emotional feelings, both the good and the bad, because, as we discussed in the club, you cannot bring in more joy without bringing in more pain.

It’s an all or nothing deal. Here are some of the things to help you answer those four components. When you’re asking yourself, what do I believe about capacity?

Consider what you want to believe about infinite capacity of the universe, of energy itself, of ever expanding life force. What do you believe about the capacity of everything God, the divine, the universe? The reason we see art and music and healing techniques and technology and science and medicine keep expanding with no end in sight is because we are made of infinitely, capably expanding stuff, same stuff the university is made out of.

Are you willing to tap into that belief? For the second component of what are you willing to do about capacity? I happen to believe that anything that I do a little bit every day or on repeat, even if it’s not every day, anything I do every day, or on some regular basis, I get better at sometimes my head has to go quickly with , well, can’t get any dumber, and I keep doing the thing, even if it’s excruciating.

Being even in front of y’all was excruciating to me at one point, and I had the belief not only if I keep doing this, will I get better at it, but I also started to form the belief that if I feel excruciating feelings in my body, then it means I’m on the right track for my growth. This means it’s working. That was a huge change for me.

are you willing to believe and what are you willing to do about growing your capacity? And why do you want to increase your capacity? Capacity when I picture future me, and when you picture future you, whether it’s five years from now you, or 10 years from now you, she is not any more worthy of love or better and more sophisticated or anything than you now, maybe more sophisticated, I don’t know, let me withdraw that one, but she’s not any more worthy of love, you are not more worthy of love than 10 year old you that stays consistent.

No one shifts in their worthiness or their enoughness or their deservingness of love, especially self love y’all, the capacity has been changing all along, but your worthiness for love has never changed. when I picture and I ask future me who has already expanded her capacity in ways that I’m working on right now, and I ask her, what’s normal for you, what’s possible for you, what feels wonderful for you, and how’d you do it? getting into that creative dialog, maybe it makes me sound a little crazy, but are you willing to try accessing the future?

Use why? What does she have now? Or he What do they have in the future?

And the fourth one, when you’re asking, Who will I include in my expansion? As I expand my capacity, I think that the number one reason for that I get my coaches, or I hire coaches, or I have my mentors, when I go to them, it is to help me access the capacity, either already inside of me, or that I’m right on the brink of, or that they know is possible to that’s why we get coaches. That’s why we get mentors.

Is to access greater capacity now when it comes to sales and marketing, when it comes to being of service and doing growing your capacity in that way for your business, especially, or if you’re persuading your family to eat better, whatever it is, a bigger way that impacts doing anything bigger that impacts more people, you have got to be able to expand your capacity, your capacity to feel feelings. Because the rejection is going to come, the feelings are going to come, you have to expand your capacity to act and do things that are new, that feel weird, might make you go this, and then do them again and again, each time assessing and going, what did I ? What do I want to do differently and go back in feelings feeling embarrassed, rejected, exposed, unsafe when you really are safe, feeling nervous, feeling you blew it, blowing it, totally making a huge mistake, becoming the person who does it again and again and keeps learning.

I’m not talking about making mistakes and being sweet. I don’t care. I don’t have to right my wrongs.

No writing those mistakes and realizing who you became from the whole process and throughout all of that. Never losing an ounce of self worth, never doubting yourself, never questioning whether you are worthy of love that is worth. Expanding your capacity every single day.

And finally, I also gave you a quote by my Tim Ferriss author, who I love and hate for many reasons, what you don’t do determines what you can do at the end of the week. We took a turn, and we shifted into not expanding your capacity, which is defined by remember what you can hold and contain and consume, as well as what you can produce and skillfully do in your world. We were expanding, expanding and talking about more a lot of the week, and then we took a turn and started to explore what it would look and feel to shift from expanding in your capacity and accessing greater capacity instead of going more and more and more more more money, more time, more ease, but having the also equal conversation that is there, once we start talking about more, we have to also expand into less.

I also want to offer you three places where you might desire and decide on purpose to access greater capacity for less whether it’s in your business, your friends, your family, your food, your health goals, let’s talk about your capacity to say no. Warren Buffett has a quote that there’s a difference between successful people and really successful people. The difference is that really successful people say no to almost everything.

what is your capacity for saying no? Mine is often, I often am. I love saying yes to everything and remember the remembering these things and rehearsing them, of , Wait, if there’s something I really want to expand into, and I really want to do part of that is going to be fueled by my nose.

That’s huge. What is your capacity for saying no? What is your capacity for being told no?

Something else to look at? What is your capacity for patience, which goes right into what is your capacity for playing longer and longer games without panicking and pivoting and trying something else? What do you want it to be?

Why do you want it to grow? Knowing your why? Knowing your reasons is what fuels your emotions, and it fuels you staying on course.

Usually in our teens, 20s, we do this automatically. And now in our 30s, 40s, 50s and beyond, we do it on purpose, which means we have to be conscious of the skills we want. What is your capacity also for totally making mistakes or feeling you made a mistake.

What’s your capacity to saying I stand corrected. This one was on me. I’m sorry.

What can I do to make it right? That expanding your capacity there will completely change your world overnight. And now, to conclude, I want you to we.

Did a whole thing with, , rating ourselves and all of that. But for you right now, I want you to feel what you feel. It’ll either be a yes, I want more capacity here, or Ooh, I’m scared, or no, I’m shutting down.

I’m gonna read some different places where you might consider expanding your capacity, your capacity to receive. What is it? Do you want to expand it?

Do you want to grow that? Do you is that something you need to shift around in? What’s your capacity to receive?

What is your capacity to contain or conserve? What’s your capacity to release and let go? I’m going to do a little bit more, but consider, and can keep considering, while you’re feeling in your body, your ability and your desire to expand your capacity, that there’s infinite opportunity for this everywhere you look, is an opportunity to expand capacity, and consider that you have access to in infinite capacity at all times.

here we go. Little pop quiz, quick for your body. What’s your capacity for choosing ideas, having ideas and choosing I’m going to do that one, what’s your capacity?

Next one, what’s your capacity for stewarding an idea all the way through to completion, to a done point that you determine what’s your capacity for knowing when it’s time to rest, and what’s your capacity for doing the resting? What’s your capacity for restoration and repair? What’s your capacity for taking life or yourself less seriously?

My friends, what’s your capacity for letting others be wrong about you? What’s your capacity for letting others judge or misjudge you? What’s your capacity for choosing who you spend time with or what clients you work with?

What’s your capacity for making others offers, selling. What’s your capacity for buying, taking offers? What’s your capacity for hearing no or saying no?

What is your capacity, as one of my favorite ones, to ask myself, What is my capacity for having things go wrong? What’s your capacity for appearing weak or vulnerable? What’s your capacity for not knowing what to do?

And I’ve said this one a lot, what’s your capacity for being flat out wrong? I want to leave you with the idea of choosing one of those areas or one action that you could take in the next 24 hours. We got some homework already be coming in, that we gave out in the club this week of actual actions to take in 24 hours.

Yes, actions you want to take, but with an also additional mindset, additional awareness of I want to watch my capacity for this, and now, having gone through these conversations, I want to witness what me expanding my capacity, choosing capacity on purpose, might look . that’s a week in the club, my friends, I loved every second, and I can’t wait to hear tonight, even what you’re bringing to this conversation. We’ll pause there and let’s coach.